Choose readings from your favourite books, poems that offer guidance, songs that you’ll never forget and personal promises that will last a lifetime. If you would like to write a piece about yourselves as a couple, your journey to this point or tell us about an experience you have shared together, then the registar will be more than happy to include this for you.
Please note that the following suggestions are only for licensed venue ceremonies. For Register Office ceremonies, please contact us for advice on how you can personalise your ceremony.
Legal Vows and Promises
Choosing your vows
Lawfully, there are only two places in the ceremony where specific wording must be used:
- During the declaration
- During the contractual vows
However, it is still possible to choose from three legal options, which we show you in your Ceremony Pack.
Exchanging of rings
We offer a choice of five ring vows, which will be shown in your Ceremony Pack. However, we also invite you to write your own.
Personal promises are a great way to incorporate values and vows that have particular significance to you as a couple. Your ceremony pack also contains several options, but we are more than happy for you to write your own.
Please note that no wording may be used from any religious ceremony.
Ceremony Personal Touches
The Rose Ceremony
This is a simple yet moving ceremony where the couple exchange two roses symbolising the giving and receiving of their love for each other. The roses can be given to the couple by members of their family, friends or even the Registrar.
An example of the wording can be found here [link to be updated], however the wording can be tailored by you for a more personal touch.
A Unity Candle Ceremony
A candle is a powerful symbol of love and light and as such can be used in a number of ways as part of this ceremony. Whether you are celebrating the unity of two families, or wish to remember the loved ones who can’t be with you on your day, we can work with you to create a format that is personal and meaningful.
For example, the Registrar can invite two family members to light a candle, representing each of your families. Using these two candles, the couple then light a central candle which represents their union and that of their families.
An example of the wording can be found here, however the wording can be tailored by you for a more personal touch.
The Sand Ceremony
This very ancient ceremony is similar to the candle ceremony, but has the advantage of leaving a permanent memento for the couple on their special day.
In this ritual, the couple pour two different coloured sands into one special container. The flowing of the sand and the blending of the colours symbolise the joining of two lives, representing everything the couple have been, or will become, in the future. An example of the wording can be found here [link to be updated].
Music is one of the best ways to bring your ceremony to life and can be incorporated in a number of different ways.
There are four key points throughout the ceremony where music could be used:
- As your guests are assembling.
- Your entrance.
- During the signing of the register and photographs.
- Your exit.
You are very welcome to have a live performance as part of the ceremony itself in place of a reading, be it instrumental, vocal or a guest sing along!
Whether a reading is humorous, serious, poetic or classic, it will always add something personal to your ceremony and is a lovely way to involve your family or friends.
We encourage all unique and personal approaches to your special day and themed weddings are a great way to do this. We may even be able to join in with your theme, just ask!
If you would like to discuss your ideas for a themed ceremony call our Ceremony Coordination Team on 01665 602870.